Afraid you can’t hold the door or offer to pay for dinner for fear of insulting a feminist? Fear not, they’re not as scary as they seem. Learn what’s true and what’s a myth in our deconstruction of the modern American Feminist. Read the rest here....
Subjectifiedappealed to me instantly. I admired the sincere delivery of a vital conversation around young women and sex and impressed by director's smooth restraint. When Melissa Tapper Goldman created her film she allowed the women in her documentary voice their stories.
Back in February, I went to the awesome series: Chicks Make Flicks presented by Women in Film & Video New England, and the Program in Women's & Gender Studies at MIT. The room was filled. When the lights came back on hands began shooting up in the air. We all had questions and the director - along with one of the women in the film - took the questions one by one. I was hooked.
Back at the Lesley Women's Center I had just assembled a magnificent panel to lead a discussion and answer questions about sex. Our vision? To become a resource for accurate and honest information about anything that anyone wanted to know about sex. Anything. So as Melissa answered the questions I only thought about bringing the film back to Lesley. During that Q&A her generosity was palpable as she encouraged others in the audience to do the same as she had. Pick up a camera, chase and nurture your passion, look for answers and share the results with the rest of us. A shy young man asked Melissa if young men would speak about sex. Would her documentary project number 2 be the male version of Subjectified? "You go do it!" She told him. "I am serious!" She was. She looked almost ready to continued and added: "Call me and I can talk to you about how I did this."
The film is closely shot and intimate. The conversation is fun and open, but it is also discreet. In the background, Melissa's voice is easy on the ears even when the questions are intimate or venture into areas that even today, with our informal and generous over sharing, could get a bit personal. Truth be told - and it is - the women of Subjectified tell us what we want to know. Melissa Tapper Goldman showcases the voices of the film's subjects and her point of view doesn't stray. Inevitably the audience takes in a narrative of stories that extend beyond sex and these specific women.
The stories the Subjectified women tell, sneak into areas as unique as each woman speaking for Melissa's camera. Some accounts deal with religion, body image, unique desire, experimentation, pregnancy and gender. But today reality and information sharing are omnipresent badges of youth's cultural identity. This is how we live. To read detailed interactions in media and watch 'real' conversations on line happen is, well, the way it is. And in Subjectified the conversations are stripped-down real, not glossy or managed. One doesn't sit in front of the screen and feel as if they are peeping into an embarrassing tale and shouldn't be listening. You don't get that funny pit in the stomach about hearing something you don't want to hear. To be clear in a manner of current speaking. This not over-sharing. In fact a viewer experiences Subjectified like talking comfortably to people you like. So it is easy-listening. Free-flow. These women are real. The stories they tell are real and there is no gimmick. We haven't inadvertently walked into a group-support meeting.
For about three weeks now, Duke University has been on the news, thanks through our friends at Jezebel, and now in traditional news outlets. The 'fuck-list' is all the rage and we, the more grown-ups, educators and parents, are scratching our heads about the significance of the 'hook-up' culture and the influence of alcohol in college campuses around the country, making hooking up and drinking a symbiotic pairing. But back in 1977, as my husband (an MIT grad)reminded me, a similarly infamous list was known on the MIT campus for years. He remembers showing up to his freshman orientation in 1980 where someone handed him a copy of 'Our Bodies Our Selves,' for which I will be eternally grateful. The assumption from a wise future-seeing person was that when you are young and you think about sex, nothing is a sure thing. There are questions. Many of them and some of them will only come into conscious focus when the first sexual experiences begin for young men and women of all ages and genders. So with the utilitarian nature of the search engine available to provide answer to this questions, I quiver. What the return query on a string search that includes the word sex in the Google white box?
Subjectified begins with one question: "Why do girls have sex?" You might have an assumption, a personal opinion, experience, hindsight. You can fill in the blanks and walk away thinking you have got it figured out for yourself, your sister, brother or children. Why do girls have sex? The answers, I promise will enlighten you.
During the Spring, Assistant Professor Amy-Rutstein Riley organized Lesley's first Service Learning course: Girlhood, Identity, and Girl Culture. The course was designed to combine the theory of Girls' Studies with an experiential learning component. Twenty Lesley undergraduates successfully planned, organized and facilitated two girls' groups for middle school girls from Cambridge.
Group 1, Week 2
Lesley students worked with middle school students in small groups to make media collages. The collages reflected positive vs. negative images that are portrayed about women in the media and was a powerful introduction to media literacy for both Lesley students and the young girls. The girls presented their completed media collages to the larger group.
Group 1, Week 4
At the beginning of our discussion on cliques, the girls were asked to write something mean they have said about someone on a poster. Group members were able to talk about cliques and how it was hurtful to be excluded at school. At the end of the session, the girls ripped up the "mean word" poster to demonstrate progress.
Group 1, Week 4
Skits were created and performed by small groups on the topic of bullying. Scenarios were acted out in front of the larger group on issues like spreading rumors and stereotypes. The skits allowed group members to act as a team toward a common goal and generated discussion about bullying.
Group 1, Week 5
Old shoe boxes, magazine clippings, and glitter were used to create Identity Boxes. The outside of the box was designed to reflect how the girls are perceived on the outside, and the inside of the boxes represented their genuine identities.
Celebration, Week 7
The last meeting was dedicated to celebrating the girls and the work that they had done. The event took place at Alumni Hall and an intimate group from Lesley and Cambridge were invited to attend. The girls' artwork was displayed to form a gallery walk. Both Lesley and middle school girls were asked to speak about their experience. Each girl was presented with a book which had pictures and excepts from the girls' groups.
“For me, they were like a princess,” she said. “And I kept those pictures in my mind, and I made a wish that one day I would like to be one of those ladies.” So begins the article. Read more here:
I read Jezebel frequently. I actually go to it as many times, if not more, than I do Google news. There are many reasons for parking brain on Jezebel's blog. I get witty Tim Gunnquips from Project Runway, I feast on photo-shopping disasters, get a bit of tabloid trash, but most importantly, I hook on to links that describe a woman's world outside of my living room couch. Today, I found a gem, which I need to share with you. Listen and learn from Melissa Harris Lacewell, while being thankful that women like her have a brain and influence on higher learning.
It is that time again. We're going to have a wonderful kick-off to our group this fall 2010 semester. Celia Jeffries will be leading the group in a productive workshop which will re-spark your semester's resolutions for all of your writing projects.
The workshop:
Back in the Saddle
Is it time to ‘re-vision’ your writing project? Time to take a closer look, a different perspective, time for a jump-start? In this first session we’ll discuss revision as an on-going part of the writing process and use one or two exercises to begin that process.
About Celia:
Celia Jeffries, MA Brandeis, MFA Lesley University, has an extensive background in education, journalism, and publishing. She is an Amherst Writers and Artists Affiliate and trainer and led workshops in the Boston area for over six years before moving to Western Massachusetts. Her work has appeared in several publications, including the anthology Beyond the Yellow Wallpaper and Westview, Writer's Chronicle and Solsticelitmag.com. Celia is the managing editor of Patchwork Journal, has served in the Writer-in-Residence program at Forbes Library, and on the faculty of Lesley University in Cambridge Massachusetts. She is currently on the faculty of Writers in Progress in Northampton, Massachusetts.
The gorgeous movie star-looking woman in the photo above, is my mom Marie Henriquez. Since 2003, I have missed her love, her strength, humor and determination every single day, as have my sisters. Though her presence is steady in how I parent my own children, my only regret is that she couldn't continue to be the awesome and fun grandmother she was already on track to become.
Yes, Hallmark makes a mint on a day like today, but any reminder to celebrate your mom, is usually a good thing. Don't forget the men out there, who parent children on their own, and raise families. Don't forget your grandmas, and godmothers, or any other person who 'mothers' you in any way.
So to everyone:
We hope this is a wonderful, happy and hopeful day!
Recently, one of my photos was submitted to a hateful and fatphobic (transphobic, ageist, etc etc) Facebook group: "There's a weight limit on leggings & skinny jeans."
I have posted photos of myself on the internet for years, and have copped a huge variety of flack (but WAY more compliments!) So I wasn't really upset that someone had taken a photo I had posted to an outfit website, and submitted it to this nasty group, after all it was just a matter of time – and who knows, more of my photos could be posted in any number of bigotry-filled hideyholes online. I have heard so many jabs at my fatness that insults just sound like caricatures of other insults these days, but for many other people it is really upsetting and distressing.
Any article that starts by using the words Barbie and abortion in the same sentence is and interesting read:
"I was pretty young when my Barbies started having abortions," said writer Jennifer Baumgardner last night. The event was called "Young Women, Feminism And The Future." I wished for a little bit more of the future stuff.
Iceland has just banned all strip clubs. Perhaps it's down to the lesbian prime minister, but this may just be the most female-friendly country on the planet
Julie Bindel guardian.co.uk, Thursday 25 March 2010 22.00 GMT
Johanna Sigurdardottir, prime minister of Iceland. Photograph: Bob Strong/REUTERS
Iceland is fast becoming a world-leader in feminism. A country with a tiny population of 320,000, it is on the brink of achieving what many considered to be impossible: closing down its sex industry.
While activists in Britain battle on in an attempt to regulate lapdance clubs – the number of which has been growing at an alarming rate during the last decade – Iceland has passed a law that will result in every strip club in the country being shut down. And forget hiring a topless waitress in an attempt to get around the bar: the law, which was passed with no votes against and only two abstentions, will make it illegal for any business to profit from the nudity of its employees.
Even more impressive: the Nordic state is the first country in the world to ban stripping and lapdancing for feminist, rather than religious, reasons. Kolbrún Halldórsdóttir, the politician who first proposed the ban, firmly told the national press on Wednesday: "It is not acceptable that women or people in general are a product to be sold." When I asked her if she thinks Iceland has become the greatest feminist country in the world, she replied: "It is certainly up there. Mainly as a result of the feminist groups putting pressure on parliamentarians. These women work 24 hours a day, seven days a week with their campaigns and it eventually filters down to all of society."
The news is a real boost to feminists around the world, showing us that when an entire country unites behind an idea anything can happen. And it is bound to give a shot in the arm to the feminist campaign in the UK against an industry that is both a cause and a consequence of gaping inequality between men and women.
According to Icelandic police, 100 foreign women travel to the country annually to work in strip clubs. It is unclear whether the women are trafficked, but feminists say it is telling that as the stripping industry has grown, the number of Icelandic women wishing to work in it has not. Supporters of the bill say that some of the clubs are a front for prostitution – and that many of the women work there because of drug abuse and poverty rather than free choice. I have visited a strip club in Reykjavik and observed the women. None of them looked happy in their work.
So how has Iceland managed it? To start with, it has a strong women's movement and a high number of female politicans. Almost half the parliamentarians are female and it was ranked fourth out of 130 countries on the international gender gap index (behind Norway, Finland and Sweden). All four of these Scandinavian countries have, to some degree, criminalised the purchase of sex (legislation that the UK will adopt on 1 April). "Once you break past the glass ceiling and have more than one third of female politicians," says Halldórsdóttir, "something changes. Feminist energy seems to permeate everything."
Johanna Sigurðardottir is Iceland's first female and the world's first openly lesbian head of state. Guðrún Jónsdóttir of Stígamót, an organisation based in Reykjavik that campaigns against sexual violence, says she has enjoyed the support of Sigurðardottir for their campaigns against rape and domestic violence: "Johanna is a great feminist in that she challenges the men in her party and refuses to let them oppress her."
Then there is the fact that feminists in Iceland appear to be entirely united in opposition to prostitution, unlike the UK where heated debates rage over whether prostitution and lapdancing are empowering or degrading to women. There is also public support: the ban on commercial sexual activity is not only supported by feminists but also much of the population. A 2007 poll found that 82% of women and 57% of men support the criminalisation of paying for sex – either in brothels or lapdance clubs – and fewer than 10% of Icelanders were opposed.
Jónsdóttir says the ban could mean the death of the sex industry. "Last year we passed a law against the purchase of sex, recently introduced an action plan on trafficking of women, and now we have shut down the strip clubs. The Nordic countries are leading the way on women's equality, recognising women as equal citizens rather than commodities for sale."
Strip club owners are, not surprisingly, furious about the new law. One gave an interview to a local newspaper in which he likened Iceland's approach to that of a country such as Saudi Arabia, where it is not permitted to see any part of a woman's body in public. "I have reached the age where I'm not sure whether I want to bother with this hassle any more," he said.
Janice Raymond, a director of Coalition Against Trafficking in Women, hopes that all sex industry profiteers feel the same way, and believes the new law will pave the way for governments in other countries to follow suit. "What a victory, not only for the Icelanders but for everyone worldwide who repudiates the sexual exploitation of women," she says.
Jónsdóttir is confident that the law will create a change in attitudes towards women. "I guess the men of Iceland will just have to get used to the idea that women are not for sale."
Please join us for the reception for our Alumnae Show, Decades of Art Making. We are delighted to host the artists and invite you to see the wonderful work they create. The Women's Center is sponsoring the event as a celebration of Lesley's Centennial. The work represents several mediums including, oil on silk, quilting, photography and sculpture. We look forward to seeing you.
Wednesday March 24 5pm to 7pm Marran Gallery, Main Campus
This class sounds like it will be an incredible opportunity to learn history from the perspective of a woman and visionary: Edith Lesley Wolfard, (Does the name sound familiar?). Everything about the course seems unique, and you will get an opportunity to learn and understand how to conduct historical research here in Cambridge! Check it out and see if the course matches your degree requirements in any way.